31 August, 2009
In my blog of July 31, 2009 (“Our Worlds Are Created By Our Words – Part II”) I explained that our worlds only exist in language. If you haven’t had a chance to read it yet, please do so as it will provide the needed background for this blog’s topic.
And, once you understand that everything that exists, exists in language, you can get to the understanding that everything exists as simply a series of conversations. We ourselves are simply a network of conversations. Our doubts, our fears, our desires, our abilities, our memories, and our inadequacies all exist in language as conversations. And while some conversations are never spoken out loud to others (they’re really just monologues or memories of conversations that are in our heads), in order to produce lasting transformations in our lives, we must first transform the conversations we have about those things that need to be transformed.
You see, living inside of our heads never produces anything. It is only in communication that we accomplish anything. Why? Because all of life is simply a series of conversations. Money is a conversation. Sex is a conversation. Work is a conversation. These conversations do not always have to be words communicated between two people. A “conversation” (in its simplest form) can simply take place in your head. However, for us to influence anyone else, or, for anyone to influence us, the conversation must live outside of ourselves; outside of our heads. In other words, the conversation must live in words spoken. Ralph Waldo Emerson said it this way, “Conversation is a game of circles.” If we don’t like the way our life is in the area of finances, we should look at the conversation we have concerning money. How are we related to it? What would be a more empowering context to choose so that we can shift the conversation from one of lack to one of abundance?
For a conversation to become transformed into a reality (or a belief-set), it must have agreement. For example, the
monetary system is simply a conversation that has agreement. A one dollar bill, in and of itself, has no intrinsic value with the exception of the paper that it is printed on. However, because we agree that it has value, and we have built a system of trading and bartering around our monetary system, the one dollar bill has implied value. (Yes, U.S. exists and still holds gold that’s in place to “protect” the value of our dollar but the value of that gold was long ago exceeded by the amount of money printed and owed by the U.S. Federal Government.) In that same vein, a one hundred dollar bill has no more value than a one dollar bill. Yet, because we agree that it has a value that is one hundred times the value of a one dollar bill, it has greater value to us. This is how we create our mutual reality – through agreement (also called “agreement reality”). Fort Knox
If you offered someone on the street a choice between receiving a one dollar bill or a one hundred dollar bill, he would undoubtedly choose the one hundred dollar bill. Again, if the value of the bill were only the true value of the paper that it is printed on, the person wouldn’t care which bill he received. But, because he agrees that the one hundred dollar bill has more value than that of the one dollar bill, he will choose the bill of greater value (the one hundred dollar bill).
This same concept is used for everything that we believe – regardless of whether that belief is in a material thing or a metaphysical thing. On an atomic level, protons and neutrons didn’t exist until the scientific community “discovered” them and there was agreement that they are real things. (That isn’t to say that they weren’t real prior to discovery or that they really didn’t exist. However, we had no knowledge of them; and, consequently no agreement within conversation about the realness of them. Therefore, to us, they did not exist.)
An atom only exists because we say that it exists and we have agreement. On a subatomic level, a quark only exists because of agreement. Few people have ever seen a quark – we everyday laymen of science certainly don’t see them. We can’t hear or touch a quark. It is not something that can be believed in through our five senses. Yet, there is agreement that a quark is a “real” thing; that it has certain characteristics, and that it is one of the smallest particles of an atom, making up protons and neutrons.
It’s much easier to understand this principle with metaphysical things than it is with material things. Stay with me now. A tree on a hill only exists because of agreement reality. If others agree with me that there is a tree on a certain hill, then it is/becomes “real” and it exists. If no one agrees with me that there is a tree on a certain hill, then that tree does not exist. For dog to exist there must be agreement between me and others that dog exists. That does not mean that there aren’t truths that exist without agreement. They’re just not commonly agreed upon truths and therefore they are not part of our shared agreement reality.
So, why does agreement reality make a difference to you and me? Because of the conversations we have about our lives. If I’m stuck in a conversation about my finances that isn’t working for me; in other words, it leaves me disempowered, then I need to disrupt my conversation(s) about money and get into agreement with others about what my finances look like. This is more important for you than for the others that are involved. While the power of 2 or 3 people believing something the same as you is greater than that of just you thinking it, the benefit is really in your putting your conversation “out there” rather than just keeping it “in here” (in your head). Getting agreement from others involves your speaking your word, out loud, and getting others to buy in to it. In order to do this, you have to have a greater belief in what it is that you believe.
Notice that if you’re timid about your belief or you’re unsure of something, you have a lot of difficulty speaking it out loud to others. You would much rather hold on to those thoughts until you’re sure of them before you commit them to being spoken to another. But, if you truly want to transform an area of your life, you’re going to be in a much more powerful position to do so if you commit your transformation to the spoken word and share it with as many people as possible. The more people that you share it with, the more real your transformation becomes for you. Just as the more the number of people believing in anything causes, through agreement reality, that thing to become more real in people’s lives.
Sharing your new possibility for transformation in any area, is key to developing agreement reality with others, and to cementing your own transformation, not only in your beliefs, but in reality.
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